Parents Remarriage

When a couple divorces, their children can't usually get along with the
new situation, especially when they are teenager or less. After that, if the
father or the mother gets married with another person, children's problems
extend. It is usual that children think the new person wants to take the
position of their parent. It is the start point of struggling.

The new partner's behavior has the most significant impression on
the children's reaction. She/He should know that children's interest to
their parents is by nature, and it is impossible that she/he is able to put
her/him instead of them, although they live apart. Otherwise, it becomes
difficult for them to live with each other. Children start to compare
her/him with their separated parent. Any deviation from the parent's action
stimulates them to react in a manner that she/he learns the normal behavior,
as they memorized from the past. For example, if children's parent used to
prepare breakfast, it is better that he/she does that and invites them.

In short, separation of parents causes a big shock on children, and
getting along with step-mother/step-father put more pressure on them.
Therefore they should know that it takes long time for children to manage
the new situation. In these times step-mother/step-father has to do her/his
best and avoid any action that hurts their feelings.

Mahdi J.
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